Something has not gone ideally with a colleague. You need to have a talk. Maybe they did not own up to a commitment. Maybe they went behind your back and said something to someone else that REALLY bothers you.
OK, they disrespected you or they let you down, and now you are mad, and you need to get to them to tell them that.
Ask yourself next time you go into a situation where you are about to "come down" on someone... what do you want?
Do you want to present a problem and work to get a solution, or do you have a personal agenda? The difference is big.
A problem can be solved with multiple (maybe creative) solutions. A problem can be solved with input from both parties. A problem is about past actions and future actions. It is de-personalized.
An agenda, on the other hand, is one-sided and provides little room for input or teamwork. It encourages defensiveness.
Which one do you want to present?
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